Denied, declined, eliminated, refused, dismissed, rejected. Whatever you call it, getting rejected is not a pretty experience. There’s getting declined of a request or something you want, and the hurt and letdown you experience afterwards. Is this experience really that distasteful? Perhaps it’s not an incident you’d want to occur all the time, but there are some good things about it. Here are a few things you might want to look at.
It’s a no-brainer. Just like problems and other negative experiences in life, you can survive rejection. Aside from being able to get through the experience, you can come out of it a better, stronger, and wiser man. It’s just a matter of dealing with it in the way that will benefit you the most. That means you’d have to ensure that you not look at the situation in a non-biased point of view, as it can impede better judgment and might cause you to spiral downward instead of forward, out into the world with a label “I got rejected and survived like a boss.” For a guide on how to deal with rejection, read The 4 Steps to Manage Rejection.
Moreover, surviving means you should give yourself the chance to grow and become a stronger person by taking on the initial pain of the experience. Notice that it’s only an initial pain, because it will only be at the start. Once you’ve accepted the situation and expressed all the disappointment you feel, you will no longer need to be in pain. No pain, no gain can be one of the mantras you could recite while you express your emotions in a healthy manner.
You Can Make It A Positive Experience
Although rejection is an incident that is not very appealing, you can make it into a positive experience. Aside from learning to deal with it the healthiest way possible, as previously mentioned, you should look at what you can gain from the experience. That is where you gain the most of what will make it positive.
To do that, examine the situation like you would a math problem. Find out what the problem is in the first place. Why where you rejected? Write down the reasons you got from the person or company who rejected you. Then, find out how to solve the problem. How do you find x? What can you do to avoid getting the same reasons the next time you try for your goal again? Think of possible solutions and formulate a plan that will help you make the change or improvement. Conduct research, if possible, to support your plans, like a proven formula if it were a math problem. Next, apply the solution and take the action needed to set your plans to motion. Then, perform constant reviews. Just like reviewing your answer in a math problem, you can see whether the plan is working or not. If it doesn’t seem to be going in the direction you wanted, make some needed changes.